Wednesday, December 11, 2013

Stop and think!

This little reminder helps kiddos slow down and review the process of STAR (stop, think, act, review).  This has always been a favorite go-to of mine to help my clients problem-solve and practice thinking through their decisions!

Each flap of the STAR has a short description of each letter, which can be the word itself, an example, or even a drawing for the little ones.  You can use this in the process of making a choice, or I use it at times to help my clients review decisions, how they affected other people, or if needed- what could have been done differently.

The explanation point we added as an additional problem solver: an example of how to make things right!  Apologize, do something nice for the person, take responsibility, or other ideas to help if the choice made was not such a great one!


4 comments:

  1. I was wondering if you could direct me towards which posts you think are best for a child with ODD. And if you haven't already done so if maybe you could consider a future post about it? Working with kids it seems to be the #1 diagnoses I'm seeing on plans. I have one client in particular who is the most oppositional defiant kid I think I've ever encountered. Every session still begins with at least a half hour tantrum about how hates stupid workers, doesn't want to go with me, wishes her mom would fire me, doesn't need help, doesn't care about other people ect. When I try to work on a concept (for instance we've done multiple things with star) half the time she just wont engage. Or she'll say I don't care. I don't care if I hurt people. I don't care about making good choices. Ect...on and on. She seems to have a bad case of the I don't cares. I just am starting to feel at such a loss at how to work with her. Because until I can find a way to get her to engage and have any desire to apply skills I start to feel like I'm just wasting my time. Also starts to get hard to deal with being yelled at and called stupid or occasionally sworn at every single week. I've only been at this a little over a year. Seems like you guys probably have a much better clue what you're doing. Any advice you can give would be greatly appreciated. I just feel stuck.

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    1. ODD is tough, and I think in terms of getting your kiddo to comply, you are going to have to try to find what motivates them, and have them work toward simple goals and cooperation. If you would like, I can have more suggestions on what Stacey or I have tried if you email our site psrideaweb@gmail.com, and with your permission, I would like to try putting yours and other's questions up on the Facebook page to see if we can get a discussion going. Thanks!

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  2. You definitely have my permission to post the question.

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    1. Check out our Facebook page (A PSR Gathering), let's hope we get a conversation going!

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